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November 18, 2016

Why Fear?

A couple of reasons I wrote just to remind myself why am I doing this:

Fear keeps me from enjoying life
Fear will keep me from achieving success
I want to live courageously
Life starts at the end of your comfort zone
What doesn't kill you makes you stronger
NYC is not made for the fearful
Fear just doesn't make sense
If I don't do it now, then, when?

Instagram: @100dayswithoutfear

Almost 1 month since we started our nomad adventure and yesterday you asked me if I miss home. I don't know what home is anymore, I just know I don't miss anything. I'm living the now, the present is all we have and we don't really need anything else. They say home is where the ❤️ is, and my heart is wherever you are. So baby, we are home. You, me and the two ducks behind us 🦆 #hellofearshelloworld #home #lagobracciano #italy #nomad

Adam recently asked me if speaking in public was now part of my comfort zone, and even though every single time I speak I feel more confident, it is still somewhat uncomfortable for me to get on stage and deliver my message as if I was born a speaker, which I was definitely not! We don’t just overcome fears overnight. But the more we do the things we’re uncomfortable doing, the closer they get to our comfort zone. Courage is a work in progress, and we have our entire life to work on the things that limit our potential and our true happiness. So don’t get frustrated if after trying something once you’re still afraid of it as it requires multiple attempts for us to start feeling confident. Let’s keep pushing ourselves every day so we don’t go back to square one #courageis #wip #courage #keepgoing #confidence #hellofears

2nd stop in our #nomadlife ✌🏼 ROME! We are here to speak at the @operationsmile International Student Leadership Conference 🙌🏼🙀 Best thing about today: this pink elevator - Follow my day to day adventure here 👉🏼 @michellepoler

Very often we find ourselves doing all the things we "have" to do. We have to go to work, we have to do our homework, we have to hang out with certain people.
There are things we have to do, I get it, but from those things, which ones do you do to please someone else and which ones do you do to achieve your personal goals? If you weren't afraid to disappoint others, what are the things you WANT to do? (Comment below 👇🏼)
What I’m saying is, get married because you found the love of your life not because your parents expects you to do it, graduate from college because you found a career you love not because everybody else does it, find a job that gives you everyday fulfillment, and if you can’t find it, create it, but never, ever settle. Not for a job, not for a partner, not for a degree, not for a life that doesn't fulfill you.
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Getting others' acceptance will not bring you the happiness you’re looking for and making life choices that start with “have” neither ⚡️ #courageis #courage #wantmore #hellofears

Today I walked down the prettiest street I've ever seen. It inspired me to think of all the possibilities and the ways we can solve our problems by adding color to them, making the world a happier, prettier place. Yes the weather was extremely hot, yes I was sweating in places you can't imagine, yes my niece was crying nonstop, but none of that was occupying space in my mind as I walked down this street. I will never forget you 💛💖💚💙❤️ Go to @michellepoler to follow my journey day after day 🙌🏼 ✨ Next stop: Rome 🇮🇹 #hellofearshelloworld #umbrellas #color #jerusalem

Throughout the years I've learned a very sad truth about human beings. We tend to get used to things we do not like, things we first think they are unacceptable but with time we give in. We fear change so much that we rather stay in our misery than actually doing something about it. This happens with jobs, relationships and even countries. My country 🇻🇪 has been getting used to things we never even imagined possible - scarcity, violence, lack of freedom... Tomorrow we have the chance to do something about it and say enough is enough because if there is anything we can do to stop a situation we're not 100% satisfied with, we must act and do everything in our power to change that. Tomorrow I will vote for my country, to prove to the world that we want change. And you should do the same, whether it's about a job that no longer fulfills you, a partner who is not the same person you fell in love with or a friend who brings you more problems than solutions. Change is a door to freedom #16J #courageis #the100dayproject #moveon #enough #venezuela

This is an amazing exercise we all must do once in a while. I learned it from a Google initiative where they asked women to write the things that made them remarkable and then read them out loud. We are always criticizing ourselves, very rarely we praise ourselves and think about what makes us so awesome. I challenge you to think about one thing at least that makes you remarkable. Now, go to my insta story and fill in the blank! Respost and tag @hellofears ⚡️😬 Ready?

Tell me about a time you had to gather the courage to have an open heart conversation. How did you do it? This has to be one of my biggest fears and I need some help here! 🙏🏻 #courageis #hellofears #the100dayproject #openheart

🙌🏼 best antidote against the impostor syndrome

This one is for all the people pleasers out there! We tend to accept to do things we don't necessarily want to do just to be liked by others. Are people really not going to like us if we're honest? Every time we say "ok" when we really want to say "no", we are not being compassionate with ourselves. So next time we're asked to agree to do something we don't want to do, let's try to say no for a change and see how that goes! 😬 #courageis #hellofears #the100dayproject #peoplepleaser #notivationalnotes @notivationalnotes ⬅️ Follow this account for more posts dedicated to people pleasers!

We all seem to care when we see someone going through difficult times, but very few have the courage to get involved. It is comfortable to ignore others' problems and keep living our own lives. But what if I tell you that you can save someone's life by just being present? Would you do it? This post was inspired by the last episode of the @netflix show 13 Reasons Why. Not to be a spoiler, but the positive message I got was that there may be 13 reasons or more for someone to feel hopeless, but there may also be one strong enough reason that could prevent a tragedy. That reason could be you. Be that person. Have the courage to be there for someone who could use a friend. Don't wait for others to ask for help, they may never will #courageis #bullying #hellofears #the100dayproject #13reasonswhy

So enjoy your subway ride, your flight and your.. oh wait, that's it 😳! Your elevator ride! I knew there was something else 😅! 💁🏼 @britandco #wifi #moretolife #life #quote

"I'm too cold", "This food is horrible", "what a terrible pillow", "ugh, middle seat". I don't know about you, but I complain easily. Whatever bothers me it's a reason for me to say something out loud. Here's the thing, I married a problem solver, so whenever I complain Adam goes crazy trying to find a way to fix my situation. But tbh, sometimes I don't want to fix the problem, I just feel the need to complain about it, to let it out, which frustrates him even more. I realized how selfish it is to complain just because, to say out loud every single thing that bothers me. I want to try to stop myself next time I'm about to complain and think: is this something I or someone else can fix? Do I even want to do something about it? And if the answer is "no" then I will keep it to myself. I know this will take time but if I'm not conscious about it, it will never stop, in fact it will get worse. I love the way @swissmiss thinks about complaining, she likes to ask herself: will I do something about it? And if the answer is no, she stops complaining about it. But if the answer is yes, then she goes ahead and actually does everything in her power to fix that issue, and that is how she started her 4 companies. Watch her talk at @99u to learn more about this! #courageis #wining #hellofears #the100dayproject

Stop it. Seriously. It is a good idea, it is yours after all. Go for it. Whatever happens will make you stronger, wiser and admirable for trying. If you fail, big deal, if you don't try, you fail yourself.

▪️073▪️You when you're having a terrible day and you even kinda feel pity for yourself? Instead of trying to find the answer to the question "why me????" Think about tomorrow and all the things that can make it a great day. We all have bad days, even the person you admire/envy the most can be having a terrible day today (regardless of what her insta story says!). The important thing is to have the mental strength to know that this shall pass. Maybe tomorrow everything is still the same, but your energy can be different and that will change the outcome. So woman up (this should be a word) and stay positive, because tomorrow will be awesome 🙌🏼🌈✨☀️ #reminder #courageis #the100dayproject #tomorrow #hellofears